How to find gay men for a boyfriend?

Meeting a partner who totally gets us is quite a challenging task as we get older. All the more it is for gay people. You might not have met your right partner yet because they were busy hiding in the closet, or they are not open about being gay. Yes, you may have already lowered your standards for a partner as the year pass by but then again, settling for somebody whom we don’t click with is even more stressful, right? Plus, it just totally eliminates the essence of being “in love.”

Admittedly, things were quite easy when we were younger because we were more outgoing, more attractive, and more compromising then. We were carefree when we were younger because we have every excuse to make foolish decisions (including choosing foolish partners)! We can always say that a mistake is a lesson learned or that life is leading us in a different direction. But that’s not the case anymore when we grow older. Now, we have bigger obligations to take and we also have to think about our future and how we spend our coming years. We waited long enough for true love to come knocking our door and we already reached the point when we start asking if it will really be arriving anytime soon.

Well, if that’s the case, then it’s time to take matters into our own hands. Below are few places that can help you meet gay guys who can be your perfect match.

Dating Applications and Sites

It does not need a rocket scientist to figure out how to flirt on dating apps and websites. Sites like OKCupid and Gay are the two most popular dating app and if you are okay with it, you can sign up and create your own profile. Once you are done creating your profile, you can start browsing through profiles of other members.

For starters, it is best to put your best foot forward. Think of it as a job application wherein you have to make the prospective employer like you to a point that they will choose you. But, this does not mean that you have to “sell yourself” to just anyone. So, just like a diligent applicant looking for the best job, also carefully choose whom you should start flirting with. Try to get to know the person first by talking to him. Decide base on behavior and attitude and not simply on looks. After all, you are looking for a partner, not a hookup.


Well, almost everyone has a facebook account. This simply means that you can also make use of Facebook as a means of looking for a gay man partner. Aside from individual profiles, Facebook has groups where people with common interest gather and interact. You can join these groups and start screening for prospective candidates. Again, just like in dating apps, make sure to get to know the person first by constantly communicating with him. Also, if you already found your eye candy, make sure to study him first before you give love a go signal. Learn about him by adding him as a friend, then start by looking at what he posts and shares online. What he posts and shares say a lot about him as a person. Also, his posts would let you know if he has manners. Once you’re certain that it’s him that you want, well, you can drop the bomb and flirt all you can! Goodluck!

LGBT Events and Activities

Well, if the online community is not enough for you to find your ideal gay lover, why not join their events and activities. If you are not acquainted with these activities yet, you can use the internet or your social media account to search for LGBT activities nearby. Once you found these events and activities, know how to join and to become a regular member. Once you get access to these activities, you can actually meet gay men in person more often. This will also pave the way for you to become more outgoing and more sociable. The good thing about these events is that once you get to be one of them, you get access to all other events where you can meet even more gay people. Whether your gay or straight dirty usernames is the best place to find kik usernames and snapchat usernames.

Most people would say that we should not chase love and that we should for love to come to us. They would even argue that what’s for you will not miss you because they will surely find you. But well, there is always that other side of the coin which dictates that we be aggressive with what we want and who we want in our lives. For me, I believe in the latter. You cannot just wait for things to fall on your lap all the time. More often than not, we have to find and get what we want if we want it bad enough.